You’ve applied for countless jobs and gone on numerous interviews but still no potential job prospects in sight . . .You’ve studied for weeks for a final test, but do not receive the high grade that you were hoping for . . .
Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?
Dealing with rejection is never easy and can be difficult for anyone to handle. Let’s face it, nobody likes to be told “No”. Oftentimes, we blame ourselves for our defeats and fault ourselves for doing something wrong. We think to ourselves, “if only we could have studied a little bit longer or answered the questions more clearly on that interview…”
This is the #1 mistake that most people make when it comes to rejection – blaming their selves! Don’t worry you are not alone, here are some tips that will help you learn to overcome and embrace the emotion of rejection!
Tip #1: Rejection Is Not Always About You.
Oftentimes, we tend to blame ourselves for the cause of the rejection. But sometimes we fail to realize the source of the rejection:
- Maybe that employer was not looking for your skillset at the time
- Maybe that director had you in mind for another role
- Maybe it was not your time to for that job opportunity
The list goes on and on. Because you may never fully understand why someone, rejected you, the best thing to do is not to think about it.
Focus on things that are in your control!
Tip #2: Turn that frown upside down.
So, you didn’t get that potential job you were hoping for . . . No worries! Remember that the sadness that you are feeling is a temporary emotion and will not last forever. There will be more jobs, more interviews, more opportunities to succeed it. Think of all the countless things that you have overcome throughout your life – keep going!
Tip #3 Look At Rejection As A Learning Opportunity.
Look at your rejection, as a chance to learn from your rejection and figure out areas where you could improve. Every rejection that we face in life, teaches us a lesson.
Don’t let being turned down, be a stumbling block to your success. Be confident and keep going and do not be defeated in the face of adversity.
I know that this process is much easier said than done. But you can do it! Think of the all the great leaders of our time. These leaders did not become great overnight and the certainly faced their share of adversity, obstacles, and rejections. Sometimes the key is to face your obstacle head on! Face the fear, feel the fear and go for it! Remember that the emotions that you are feeling are just temporary. Use the emotion that you are feeling and challenge yourself.
“In The Struggle Lies The Joy.” – Dr. Maya Angelou (I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings)